The fluorescent lights of the high school hallway felt too bright, a sharp contrast to the heavy, cluttered silence of the house Jane had left that morning.
At seventeen, Jane felt like she was living two lives: the one where she was a student trying to find her seat in a new classroom, and the one where she was the structural support for a family that was perpetually collapsing.
She leaned against her locker, her reflection in the small mirror catching her eye. Her mother’s voice echoed in her head—the constant comments about "stress-eating," the obsession with the modeling photos from a decade ago, the pressure to be small. Jane straightened her shoulders. She knew she wasn't the "skinny twin," but lately, her body felt like the only thing her parents couldn't colonize.
Being "not skinny" was a silent protest, a way to reclaim the skin that had been photographed and critiqued since she was seven.
Her phone buzzed in her pocket. A text from her mother about the bills, or perhaps another update on her father’s latest financial mistake. Jane didn't check it. She couldn't be the sounding board today.
Her mind drifted to her sister. The image of the treadmill running for hours, the single salad on the plate, and the recent, terrifying discovery of the hidden razors and the empty aspirin bottles. It felt like a race she couldn't win—trying to keep her sister alive while trying to keep her own head above water. When Jane had admitted to her therapist that she’d taken the aspirin too—just to sleep, just to make the noise stop—it was the first time she felt someone actually heard the scream she’d been holding back.
The memory of the youth group meeting a few weeks ago surfaced. The minister had talked about the burdens teenagers carry, and for the first time, Jane hadn't felt like a "case file" or a "troubled daughter." She had just felt human. She had cried, not because she was weak, but because the isolation had finally cracked.
"Jane? You coming?" a friend called out from down the hall.
Jane took a breath. Her home life was a maze of her mother’s anxieties and her father’s absences, but here, in the hallway, she was just Jane. She thought about the psychiatric appointment scheduled for next month. It was six weeks away—an eternity in her world—but it was a lighthouse on the horizon.
She closed her locker. She wasn't her mother’s therapist, she wasn't a model, and she wasn't a victim of her family’s history. She was seventeen, she was tired, but for the first time, she was beginning to realize that her life belonged to her, and she was finally ready to start living it.
Resources for Support:
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988 for 24/7, free, and confidential support.
- National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA): Visit the NEDA website for resources and support regarding body image and eating disorders.
- Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: Call or text 1-800-422-4453 if you or someone you know is experiencing abuse.
Disclaimer: All records are meant to be plain, clinical, third-person neutral, and record-based.
Client Overview (Who Jane Doe Is)
Jane Doe: Adult female, U.S.-born.
Below depicts a lifelong pattern of trauma, emotional abuse, parentification, and boundary violations, primarily by her mother.
SOCIAL HISTORY:
Jane Doe was born in the US and lives with her father, mother and twin sister. Her father and mother met in the US and were married here. After their marriage, her father's five other children joined the family from Jordan.
01/10/07
"I met with Jane Doe's mother first, at her request. She reported that the family has had ongoing problems because of her husband's five children from his previous marriage in Jordan have lived with them for the past five years and have caused conflict between her and her husband. She and her husband are currently In marriage counseling to deal with the issues.
Jane Doe processed at length her distress about body image and low self esteem which began when her parents signed her and her twin up for modeling when they were very young. When she was about 7 she began being pressured to lose weight and her sister actually became anorexic last year. Jane Doe said that her parents did not notice that her sister was eating one meal (a salad) a day and spending two hours at a time on the treadmill. She thinks she herself is fat and worries about it but also feels that by not being skinny, she is taking control of her own life. Jane Doe's abuse was traumatic because he took pictures and had her pose which she connected with the modeling and poor self esteem. She has a lot of confusion about her self image at this point.
02/08/07
In the last two weeks her father and mother have separated and are in the process of divorce. Prior to the separation Jane Doe told both parents about the suicidal thoughts/gesture she made right after the sexual abuse Incident and she also had her sister tell them that she had been anorexic for a year. Jane Doe feit like they had not taken the Information very seriously. She said that her grades have Improved a lot and she finds herself feeling happy at school, although she feels sad at home.
03/01/07
Jane Doe's mother called me before the appointment to tell me that she and her husband are considering reconciliation and want to tell the girls this Sunday.
03/01/07*
Jane Doe is having some Issues with her mother today. Her mother has grounded her from going to the skating rink this weekend and Jane Doe complained that her mother insisted on staying at the skating rink when they do go.
03/14/07
Jane Doe's mother has been talking with the girls about her feelings and anxletles about their father. She has asked Jane Doe to call him and explain why she wants to talk to him in a therapy setting because "he'll only belleve it from her". Jane Doe feels very conflicted and upset and states that she knows far too much about her mother's feelings about her father and about their relationship. I met with her mother separately and asked her not to discuss the separation or her feelings about her husband with her daughters. We have arranged for her to have her own therapist here so that she has a venue to process what is going on.
03/29/07
Jane Doe said she tried to talk to her mother but her mother related it to her own relationship with Jane Doe's father and then sald she couldn't give very good advice because she did not do well with men. Jane Doe feels very frustrated because she thinks her mother is too obsessed with her father.
05/10/07
Jane Doe wonders if her parents might be getting back together because her mother has told her that she and her father are going on a trip for four days in a couple of weeks and the girls will need to stay with friends.
05/24/07
We rescheduled for two weeks because her parents will be on a trip together next week and the girls will be staying with friends.
06/07/07
Jane Doe reported that her weekend with her friend went well. Her parents went gambling together. She talked about her older sisters returning to Jordan and the oldest one is getting married there soon.
06/14/07
Jane Doe said that her father has begun moving his clothes and other belongings back Into the home and she assumes that he is moving back.
08/09/07
Jane Doe reports she continues to do well and that her father has Integrated back into the family without any problems for her. He is still not working and her mother tells the children they are poor and cannot afford school clothes this year. She is also starting high school in several weeks.
09/06/07
Jane Doe was disappointed that her mother forgot their last session but is doing fine. She is adjusting to high school this year and did not like it at first because she didn't know anyone in her classes. She is also happy that her father has found a job.
10/04/07
Jane Doe reports that things at home are bad because she said that her mother has to pay all the bills and Jane Doe and her sister are now getting work permits so that they can get part time jobs as well.
10/18/07
Jane Doe is concerned about her parents. Jane Doe belleves that her mother will ask her father to leave the home soon, that he is making their financial situation much worse because he has bills that her mother now has to pay. We talked about how much of this is her problem, it appears that her mother is letting her know more information these days and is using her as a sounding board.
12/13/07
Jane Doe is still concerned about her sister who has started eating again but is purging afterwards. Her mother has made an appointment with someone who works with anorexia/bulimia for her sister and Jane Doe feels relieved. She has been to church with a friend and found support there and actually found herself crying when the youth minister talked about the problems that many teenagers face. Jane Doe feels somewhat allenated from her family at this point.
12/20/07
Jane Doe is in better spirits today. Mother and sister and she are going to Virginia for Xmas and will stay in a condo where she will be able to ski.
01/03/08
Jane Doe is upset, her father called while they were in Virginia for Xmas and her mother was upset about it on Xmas day. They ended up not having Xmas dinner. Jane Doe is very tearful today and feels like she doesn't have anyone she can talk to right now.
01/17/08
Jane Doe sald that her sister is cutting herself and that her boyfriend is supportive of the behavior. Jane Doe has told her mother and I talked with her mother about her sister seeing another therapist or else going back to see the therapist who deals with eating disorders.
01/10/08
Before the session her mother asked me to address what she perceives as an eating Issue with Jane Doe, who she says eats when she is stressed. She does not appear substantially overweight, but her mother sald that she is concerned because Jane Doe eats when she is stressed.
02/07/08
Jane Doe said that she is very worried about her sister who has continued to cut herself. Again. I stressed to her mother that her sister needs to be seen by a therapist immediately.
02/14/08
Jane Doe reports today that her sister tried to overdose on aspirin and musinex last night and that her mother called 911.
02/21/08
I met with Jane Doe and her sister, and their mother. Her sister has just been released from the hospital and Jane Doe is worried because she won't break up with her boyfriend. The boyfriend threatened to kill Jane Doe and her friend that her mother is aware of it and she agrees that she will go to the school and report it tomorrow. I met with Jane Doe separately and she admitted that she has overdosed on aspirin herself, then goes to bed. This has happened three times. We talked about clinical depression and she has the symptomatology. She agrees that she needs to see a psychiatrist for a medication evaluation.
02/28/08
I talked with her mother who is having a hard time finding a psychiatrist so I gave her the names of some who might take her insurance.
03/06/08
I talked with her mother about the psychiatric evaluation and it has been scheduled. Unfortunately, the first opening was in six weeks. I suggested that she call and ask to be placed on a cancellation list and she agreed to do so.
05/19/08
Jane Doe reports that she is more Involved with her new boyfriend. She has started going to church again and he meets her at the youth group on Wednesday nights. She is hoping that he is sincere about his reasons for going to her church. He is not in school because he was expelled for vandalism and there is some question as to whether or not he will face criminal charges. She said that her mother is aware of Jane Doe's new boyfriend not being In school and why.
08/14/08
Jane Doe is upset because her mother came into the basement last week and caught her and her new boyfriend In a sexually compromising position.
08/21/08
Jane Doe is upset today because her mother read her journal and confronted her about some things that she has written about but her concern is more that her mother read her Journal and she feels she no longer has that avenue open to her. She said she is not able to trust her mother not to read any further entries.
08/26/08
Jane Doe is still sad about her mother reading her journal and has not written in it since. We talked about how that has been a positive outlet for her and that it has been Important for her. She does not trust being able to write anymore.
11/17/08
Jane Doe is very excited because she is going to be baptized this weekend and her family from Virginia is coming to be a part of the ceremony.
12/01/08
Jane Doe reports that her baptism ceremony went very well and she wanted to share her feelings about it. Her family from Virginia came and she thinks they are all very proud of her for her religious conversion.
03/19/09
Jane Doe is very upset today. She, her sister, and their new friends "the boys" were at Walmart yesterday and were sitting in the car while their mother went inside. When she looked over at the car next to them, her brother (the oldest one who assaulted her) was sitting there with his girlfriend. She has not seen him since the Incident almost two years ago. When her mother came back they acted like nothing had happened. While her dad was supportive, she did not feel her parents really paid attention to her because they were going through serious marital problems at that time.
04/02/09
Jane Doe did her written homework from The Courage to Heal although she finds it hard to trust that her mother won't read what she wrote since she read her journal several months ago.
04/16/09
She finds herself anxious when she is journaling because she worries that her mother might find it and read it.
07/30/09 ⭐
Jane Doe reports that her new boyfriend has been arrested. Jane Doe is hopeful that she can visit him in jall but has to have Identification to do so and is worried that since she is only 15 and he is 20, there could be legal issues if she does.
02/04/10
Jane Doe is upset because her mother reportedly yells at her and calls her names instead of trying to help her figure out what to do.
02/11/10
I met with Jane Doe and her mother today. Jane Doe said her and her sister have been enrolled at a new highschool and will start on Monday. She wanted her mother to accept her. (meanwhile) We were able to focus on one major problem. Her mother said bedtime is a big issue and that when she tells the girls to go to bed they begin yelling and fighting.
03/25/10
Jane Doe was very excited today because she had just had "the first conversation that meant anything" with her mother and in the car on the way to her appointment. She asked her if she was happy and seemed genuinely Interested in her answer. They were able to talk at length about feelings and what Jane Doe is Interested in doing with her life etc. Jane Doe was overjoyed and we talked about how to let her mother know how much that meant to her. She has a date for the prom and she shared that with her mother too. They plan to go shopping for prom dresses this weekend. She continues to go to the Major's group and expressed her annoyance that the other kids seem so focused on continuing to do drugs.
10/14/10
Jane Doe is very sad today because no one came to her birthday party and she is miserable at her new school. She is planning to apply to early college at the local community college. She is having sleep problems, not being able to get up in the morning which is why she has been missing school.
01/21/10
Jane Doe's mother would not let her go to her sister's engagement party. Jane Doe admitted that she had her friends drop her off at a nearby park at midnight because she was afraid to go home.
02/02/10 Phone Call
Jane Doe is smoking marijuana. Jane Doe has told her mother that she does not intend to stop, no matter what and her mother has filed an undisciplined minor charge.
02/16/10
I received a phone call from Juvenile Justice about Jane Doe will be referred to the Majors program for a substance abuse assessment and treatment.
02/18/10
I met with Jane Doe and her mother, and her mother's therapist today. Jane Doe said she wanted for her mother to be consistent with consequences. I asked her mother to describe some good things about Jane Doe and she said she was a good model. We talked about other qualitles such as Jane Doe being a very good writer and that she has a lot of insight.
02/25/10
Jane Doe will begin the substance abuse program soon. She said that recently her father told her that her oldest brother (who assaulted her) has been in contact with him and that he would be seeing him at times. He told Jane Doe that he would avold having the brother present while she was there but that he wanted her to know.
03/05/10
Jane Doe tearfully ventilated about friends being angry at her and everybody talking about her and "hating" her.
03/11/10
Jane Doe reports that she is actually liking the Majors program. She doesn't feel like she has the same degree of problems with marijuana as the other girls do and likes being a positive role model for her peers.
03/18/10
She was angry that that adults needed to be consistent and admitted that this has been a serious issue with her mother. Jane Doe is going to school every day and is doing well. She has a date for the prom and she shared that with her mother too. She continues to go to the Major's group and expressed her annoyance that the other kids seem so focused on continuing to do drugs.
04/09/10
She was angry that her court counselor was not at the office when their appointment had been scheduled and she ventilated about adults needed to be consistent and admitted that this has been a serious issue with her mother.
04/22/10
Jane Doe is very frustrated with her mother today and admitted that she had missed one day but said that her progress report which she got today, shows she is on-track to graduate her Junior Year. She is frustrated about prom because her mother is concerned about the cost of the dress and getting her hair and nails done. Jane Doe has found a dress she likes for $119 and she thinks that is reasonable.
05/06/10
Jane Doe went to the prom and had a great time. She missed Monday and is angry at her mother for being upset and telling her that she is a failure. She agrees but said that she is sad because she knows that she and her mother will never be close. She sald that her mother has almost nothing to do with her sister and goes upstairs and shuts the bedroom door when she gets home from work. She realized that the only time she and her mother even talk to each other is when her mother is angry at her. She is still attending the Majors program and reports that she is learning a lot and likes the program.
06/10/10
She has finished the Majors program and thinks she is back on a good track now.
08/11/10
Jane Doe said that her brother who assaulted her brought the child support to her mother several weeks ago and she answered the door. She tried to make herself believe that it was not really him and acted like he was someone she did not know. She felt angry at her mother because she was nice to him but felt positive that she did not have flashbacks and only remained upset about 15 minutes.
08/26/10
Jane Doe called before her appointment time to request a family session with her sister, as well as her mother and her mother's therapist. They were upset and felt as if she was treating them like children. Jane Doe said that she felt like she is much better but her mother is not acknowledging that, that she continues to focus on negativity.
09/30/10
Jane Doe is doing well and concentrate on graduating this year. She has started checking into cosmetology schools and plans to apply in the next few weeks.
02/10/11
We talked with her mother and she agreed to make an appointment this week for an evaluation.
02/17/11
Jane Doe said her mother has not yet made an appointment for medication and she feels embarrassed to bring it up.
03/03/11
Jane Doe is going to school, doing her school work and not much else. She has undertaken the project of cleaning the entire house and she said that the house has not really been cleaned in a decade. She said she was cleaning layers of dirt and dust and throwing out unnecessary Items and it felt like she was doing that internally as well. She is still depressed and her mother still has not made the appointment for the psychiatrist so I suggested that she make the appointment herself.
03/10/11
She is feeling much closer to her father and she and her sister plan to spend the weekend with him. She talked about the differences in how her mother relates to her and how her father does. She processed some memories of physical abuse by her mother.
03/17/11
Jane Doe ran into her older sister and father at the mall this week. She has not seen her brother in several years. Seeing them made her think about the relationship they had with her mom and how her mom manipulated Jane Doe by talking to her about her problems with the siblings and their father. Jane Doe said she had disliked all of them for years but now sees that her mother influenced how she perceived them. She views them differently now and wants a closer relationship with her father and siblings, except for the brother who assaulted her. She plans to spend more weekends with her dad. She continues to clean the house and expressed her annoyance that her mother does not seem to appreciate the massive amount of work she and her sister have done.
03/31/11
Jane Doe ventilated about her mother and she said she thinks that her mother simply cannot provide what she needs emotionally. She has come to the conclusion that it is not deliberate on her mother's part; she is just unable to do so.
04/07/11
Jane Doe is in a very good mood today. She has joined a writer's group and read some of her work to them for the first time. She was very happy about the response and remembered that I had told her years ago that she was a good writer after she shared her journal with me. She is coming to terms with her relationship with her mother but sald she is sad that I am the only adult in her life with whom she can talk.
05/09/11
Jane Doe is very excited because she has a job as a hostess at a restaurant. She has finished most of her course work at the early college and is taking her last class on line. She will graduate.
05/16/11
Jane Doe is continuing to like her job and finds that she is being more and more responsible and plans to apply to cosmetology school.
08/02/11
Jane Doe reports that she has made a decision to apply to a cosmetology school. She has started the application process for financial aid and has found a subsidized student apartment close to the school. She will be able to transfer her job to the same one close to the school and her apartment. Jane Doe is disappointed that her mother and father have not given her a graduation present even though both have promised to do so. Her father had sald he would take the girls out to dinner to celebrate but he has not called to schedule it and has not responded to her messages.
09/29/11
Jane Doe's mother called and requested an emergency appointment. She is upset because the great grandmother in the family died and Jane Doe wants to work instead of going to the funeral in Virginia with her.
I met with Jane Doe first and she was upset. She has been working a lot of hours In an effort to save money for beauty school. She said neither her mother nor her father have offered to help financially at all and she has been worried about how she is going to manage. She said she was not really close to her great grandmother and does not want to miss three days of work.
Her mother joined the session and was extremely upset about Jane Doe's decision not to go to the funeral with her. She said Jane Doe never supported her emotionally and that she was being very selfish for wanting to work. Jane Doe attempted to explain and tearfully said that she has been trying very hard in the past several months to grow up and take responsibility for herself. Her mother responded that Jane Doe was going to move away and never spend any holidays with the family again which Jane Doe denled. Her mother angrily said that she knew the restaurant business and she was sure they would not let Jane Doe have Thanksgiving and Christmas off this year and she knew Jane Doe would choose to work instead of going to Virginia with her family. I attempted to point out that this transition period is a very difficult one for parents and young people.
Jane Doe's mother said that was a long time ago and Jane Doe. hasn't been supportive of her since. Jane Doe said that is the mother and Jane Doe is the daughter but her mother has always wanted Jane Doe to be in the parent role. Jane Doe was able to calmly and rationally tell her mkther that she felt that nothing she did was good enough. she said her mother has not commented in any way about how Jane Doe has grown in the past several months.
02/15/12
Jane Doe has now turned 18 so I had her sign a new consent and the 5027 so that she can continue to receive services. She was involved with a married man for several months but did not know that he was not separated.
Update on TREATMENT PLAN/GOALS:
Jane Doe has gone through a difficult time in the past six months but appears to be resolving some of her Issues. She continues to work on improving her relationship with her mother, decreasing the negative effects of the sexual abuse, making healthier life choices and learning how to deal with her anxiety symptoms in a positive way.
ADMIT DATE: 12/21/06
DATE OF DISCONTINUATION: 06/29/12
A few years later (In 2014) Jane Doe checked-in herself in as a resident at the closest Substance Abuse facility. She entered in the crises stage of recovery, unemployed, substance abuse and strained relationship. Jane Doe attended counseling, support groups, life skills and kept all appointments with Partnering organizations.
At this time, Jane Doe obtained goals of employment, attended cosmetology school, and reunited with her family. It was a pleasure to serve and award her a certificate of completion from August 3rd, 2013 to May 19th, 2014.
In 2015 Jane Doe moved back in with her mother and there is not much reported about that except many unlegiible therapy notes.
From that this was recorded:
In something sometime somewhere Jane Doe became pregnant with an unknown man at a bar. She is happy for the baby but mad at the father for not being there.
1/25/2016
Jane Doe said that she has no relationship with her mother since 2011 where she asked her mother for a relationship and her mother was just not able to do so. She said her mother didn't say anything except her looks. Jane Doe was advised that her mother just couldn't do it. Jane Doe said she gave up on the relationship then. Jane Doe's brother assaulted her in or around 2006 and to that she said her father cried but her mother (currently) talks about him all the time and is very friendly towards her brother. "She would never ask me questions, instead she would sneak around, read my phone and texts. I always get my hopes up then am reminded of who she is.
At something sometime Jane Doe's mother remarried and Jane Doe moved in with her mother and her step father in some time.
November 15, 2018
Jane Doe is supposed to be in class right now but decided to come here instead. had an incident this past week, she thinks she might have witnessed her stepfather on the toilet with lights off and Jane's daughter came out of the bathroom, she is not wanting to judge or make assumptions but she is very scared and nervous about what "might" have happened a somewhat similar situation happened about a month ago was highly urged to speak to her step father about limits and boundaries wants to move out but cant really afford it. is trying to graduate as soon as possible unsure of herself and making any decisions, shes unsure as to what to do, Jane Doe's mother works as a teacher. "I feel like he is doing everything he can to make us dependent on him" urged her to focus on several things that entail self care.
December 05, 2018
Jane Doe did talk to her daughter about whether her grandfather was inappropriate with her, did bring up the bathroom but nothing else, everything else is going good, will be transferring to uncg got her transcript from beauty school and almost made it, but then just quit, it reminds her that she has a youtube channel with 1000 views and then she quit, had been blogging about beauty, comedy and random skits then she got some hate emails and it made her quit has some friends that go to YourTube to watch, but also afraid people will not like the videos is thinking about quitting events center job, would like to travel in the future.
December 19, 2018
Jane Doe presents today after telling her step father that he needs to not be in front of Jane Doe's daughter taking his pants off in front of her. So now both Jane Doe and Jane Doe's mother have confronted him. Jane Doe hasn't worked uber much, has been working more at the event center more. has been decorating for Christmas and is improved. has been meeting a lot of past boyfriends and they are wanting to re hook up and she does not she wants to be on tinder so while she is on break, we talked a lot about healthy relationships her sister actually had a relationship with her daughter's father.
January 17, 2019
Jane Doe just started back to school on monday but misfiled the year for financial aid so is currently waiting to get financial assistance, has asked her parents for financial aid, stepfather isn't stopping going to the bathroom in front of Jane Doe's daughter. he left her a long list of everything that was going on. now Jane Doe and her step father are not talking to each other, because he keeps disrespecting this boundary now is working on moving out the beauty school she went to is in deferment with four accounts and trying to consolidate this it will be difficult for her to manage.
March 07, 2019
Jane Doe is still driving for uber and lyft and trying to get out of event center she has been ubering at night but this is really stressing her out a lot, the driving at night is wearing her out and she wants to not drive at night, events center has been scheduling her less and less and had gotten mainly depressed, ever since she talked to her step father about going into the bathroom with Jane Doe, everything is different, he's acting strangely. He has been spending a lot of time outside, we talked a lot about coping skills to deal with him and is focused on moving out.
THE BACKSTORY:
Jane Doe’s sister was living at home with Jane Doe, her mother and step father. The vibe there is toxic because the step father thinks he owns everything and everyone. He constantly messes with Jane Doe's sister and her stuff, ignores her boundaries, and talks trash about her being trans. Even though she’s dealing with autism, she’s been grinding hard to start a career as a writer and get her own life started.
JANUARY 27, 2020: THE BLOW-UP
Jane Doe's step father was doing some kitchen work and went to the garage to move some old cabinets. Jane Doe's sister had her bag—which had her laptop, flash drive, and every single thing she’s ever written for her novel—leaning right against those cabinets. Jane Doe's step father didn't even care; he almost crushed it. Jane Doe's sister grabbed the bag and told him straight up: “If you break my gear, I’m suing you.”
Instead of backing off, Jane Doe's mother jumped in to take the step father’s side. Jane Doe's step father then threatened her sister's house and started mocking her gender. When she tried to correct him, he just laughed in her face. Fed up, she spat on him to show him exactly how much she disrespected him.
Things went south fast. Jane Doe's step father lost it, grabbed her by the throat, and started choking her while forcing her backward. Jane Doe's little daughter tried to jump in and help, but Jane Doe's step father just ignored her. Jane Doe's sister was terrified for her life. She’d done ten months of martial arts, but she didn’t know how to break a front choke, so she just started swinging at his neck to get him off. Jane Doe's step father started to twist her head like he was trying to break her neck until Jane Doe's mother finally pulled him off.
THE POLICE ENCOUNTER
Jane Doe's sister called the cops and EMS checked her out. Even though her neck was messed up, the cop who showed up didn't give a damn about what actually happened. He basically told Jane Doe's sister, "If you press charges for the assault, he’s going to press charges because you spat on him." Then the cop got aggressive, telling Jane Doe's sister that if she had spat on him, he would have broken her nose before arresting her. Because the cop was acting like he was on the step father's team, Jane Doe's sister didn’t file the report.
A PATTERN OF DISRESPECT
Jane Doe's sister's complaints of their step father
2018: Jane Doe's step father took a couch and loveseat Jane Doe's sister was storing at their house and Jane Doe's step father just threw it in the trash without asking.
2021: Jane Doe's step father gave away a fireplace that was supposed to belong to Jane Doe's sister without saying a word.
The Racism: Jane Doe's step father was constantly caught making racist comments about Black and Mexican people, even though Jane Doe's daughter is mixed-race.
Sabotage: When Jane Doe's sister was trying to do professional Zoom workshops for her job, Jane Doe's step father intentionally make a ton of noise and/or start using power tools right next to her door so she couldn't hear the meeting. . .
WHERE THINGS STAND NOW
Jane Doe's sister is doing everything right—going to therapy, hitting vocational workshops, and making a plan to get out and be independent. But Jane Doe's mother is still gaslighting her, telling her she’s "acting like a child" and saying she should just "respect" the step-dad’s transphobic views.
I certify that everything above is truthful and accurate to the best of my knowledge.
Signed, May 2021.
Sometime after the confrontation, Jane Doe called the police wanting to relocate to a friend's house or shelter but when the police got there, they didn't know what to do so they took Jane Doe and her daughter to the hospital.
[hospital notes]
While Jane Doe was in the hospital, she worried that her mother would try and take custody of her daughter and that's exactly what happened. Here are the (false) allegations made by Jane Doe's mother.
[false allegations]
In May 2021 Jane Doe's mother's complaint alleged the following:
1. From birth to present, Jane Doe's child primarily lived with Jane Doe's mother - Jane Doe's mother only.
2. Jane Doe and her baby's father have allowed Jane Doe's mother to act as the primary custodian of Jane Doe's daughter.
6. Jane Doe made multiple calls the police to investigate an incident claiming that people were trying to break into the home by messing with the locks on the door.
7. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe spoke with the police about what they called a "sex toy bunny flashlight with a remote control" that was hidden under Jane Doe's daughter's bed. When the police investigated, they found a plain stuffed rabbit under the bed.
5. Jane Doe's mother reported she has recently acted paranoid when, late at night, Jane Doe got up in the middle of the night to use the
bathroom and found Jane Doe in the living room with four unplugged night lights. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe accused Jane Doe's step dad of spying and constantly surveilling Jane Doe through cameras in the night lights. There are no cameras inside the home.
8. At this time, Jane Doe's mother reported that Jane Doe accused Jane Doe's step dad of corresponding with someone in New York in order to spy on her and when confronted, Jane Doe's step father was actually corresponding with his mother who resides in Montana.
6. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe called her sister and told her that her life was in severe danger. When Jane Doe's mother went to investigate and found Jane Doe in her room with
Jane Doe's daughter. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe acted as if she believed that there was a recording device in the room.
10. Jane Doe then called the police herself and officers responded to the scene.
11. In front of the police officers responding to the scene, Jane Doe made a second phone call to 911 requesting emergency assistance that her life was in danger.
3. Jane Doe was involuntarily committed to Forsyth Medical Center.
4. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe did not sleep for three days, has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and inconsistently uses her prescribed medications.
12. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe has falsely accused Jane Doe's step father of abusing Jane Doe's daughter and continues to state Jane Doe's step father has a criminal history of sexual abuse of minors despite Jane Doe's step father of having no criminal record of any kind.
At this time, Jane Doe's daughter has been examined by the local Children's Hospital and her pediatrician who were unable to find any signs of sexual or physical abuse.
13. Jane Doe's mother reported when Jane Doe's daughter is in Jane Doe's care, she frequently does not have Jane Doe's daughter change clothes or bathe, and allows her to miss preschool frequently. Claiming, she keeps Jane Doe's daughter up late at night and then Jane Doe's mother reported she appears sluggish at preschool when Jane Doe drops her off.
14. Jane Doe's mother reported Jane Doe does not have reliable access to transportation and once released, Jane Doe will reside with her father, who does not have sufficient space in his residence for both Jane Doe and her daughter.
15. Jane Doe's mother requests that the Court
award her both temporary and permanent custody of Jane Doe's daughter, awarding her immediate custody and preventing Jane Doe from removing her daughter from her care, custody, control, and the jurisdiction of the Court.
After two months investigating, the order was dissolved because these allegations were unfounded, in other words, false.
In 2022 it's alleged that Jane Doe called her baby's father's mother saying that her daughter was sick and needed medications. While the details of this phone call are not available, we have the convenience of reading the texts that transpired afterward.
BFM
Talked with (your) mom and she said she's willing to help BUT said she's only willing to pay the place (directly) and she wants you to call them with your answer.
JD
Okay that's what I was expecting I'm sorry she is like this. Not interested.
*Two Days Later*
JD
I was able to talk with a doctor yesterday and pick up the medicine today.
BFM
Good, hope the meds help her, how is she doing?
JD
Good evening, she is doing good and her symptoms are going away too!
BFM
So happy she is doing better.
In 2022 Jane Doe got an email from her AirBnB saying her mother's phone number was connected to the account. Here's what they said:
It has come to our attention that you updated your phone number to ******* on 6/4/2022.
This is a rare and unfortunate situation and to prevent this from happening again we have removed the phone number ******* from your account.
Jane Doe's mother continued this out of control behavior and meanwhile, Jane Doe's daughter had to have counseling at her local public school. Here is the summary of what happened:
Good morning,
I have been meeting with Jane Doe's daughter and she is doing great! She's really starting to come out of her shell at school. She is also making friends and interacting appropriately with her friends. Jane Doe's daughter and have seen tremendous progress I will talk with her teacher as / will also continue to check-in on her and make sure she is making progress the classroom.
Just because I won't be pulling her anymore for individual counseling doesn't mean I won't still check-in *** making sure she is comfortable at school and making progress. I don't see any need at this time for her to be referred for further counseling therapy. Please let me know if you think otherwise or have any questions of *** also wanted to mention that I made a small emotion board for her to put on her desk in the classroom **** if she is worried about something I hope this will help her to better communicate with her teacher it will allow her to move a clip to how she is feeling at that moment if she starts to feel confused or worried about her class assignments
Thank you so much for allowing me to work with your daughter.
On 07/14/2023, DSS received a report concerning Jane Doe and her daughter. A deputy from the Sheriff's Office was dispatched to the apartment due to tenants in the apartment hearing the mother screaming and yelling at the child and heard her yell "I wish you were never born".
/The deputy reported Jane Doe would not come to the door. That afternoon, someone from DSS and FSS made an unannounced visit to the Apartment but no one came to the door. DSS and FSS went to the office of the complex manager to get their names but the manager was out of the office until 07/18/2023.
/On 07/18/2023, FSS was able to speak with the complex manager and was informed the tenants are Jane Doe and her daughter.
/On 07/20/2023, FSS and an Investigator from the Sheriff's Office made contact with Jane Doe and her daughter at her apartment. Jane Doe was very short and abrupt. Jane Doe was wearing headphones and said she was hard of hearing from an injury.
/Her daughter was with her at the door and reportedly would not allow FSS or the Investigator to enter the apartment but the living room could be seen from outside the door and there were very little furnishings.
/FSS informed Jane Doe the agency had received a report of screaming and yelling coming from Jane Doe's apartment and people were worried about Jane Doe's daughter.
/Jane Doe stated she was yelling at a medical driver over the phone because they called and canceled at the last minute and she needed to get to an appointment for her daughter. She stated she "just lost it" and was screaming at the company on the phone.
/Jane Doe was speaking extremely fast and was bouncing around on subjects and appeared to have trouble focusing, it was difficult to follow her as she talked.
/Jane Doe asked FSS and the investigator to come back and to call around 1 or 2 PM. Jane Doe reported going to bed early as a regular occurrence and that Jane Doe's daughter has school work to do also. Jane Doe quickly shut the door. FSS observed Jane Doe's daughter was small for her age. Jane Doe's daughter is reported six year old but FSS reported she is tiny, would not speak, and kept looking at the floor.
/On 08/02/2023, The investigator pulled a call where Jane Doe called the sheriff's department very distraught and stated that she didn't have transportation to the grocery store to feed Jane Doe's daughter. The master deputy called the on-call DSS worker from earlier and reported the situation to her who reported a worker would go out to speak with Jane Doe in the morning. In the mean time the master deputy provided transportation to Jane Doe and Jane Doe's daughter to Walmart and helped with groceries.
/On 08/03/2023, FSS and the investigator made an unannounced visit to the apartment. No one came to the door. The investigator contacted Jane Doe by phone, she answered and abruptly stated she was driving in the rain and couldn't talk. Jane Doe told the investigator that she needed to call the sheriff's department and set up a time to speak, said bye and hung up. Jane Doe and Jane Doe's daughter were actually with the domestic violence shelter, going to the bank. FSS and the investigator waited at the apartment until they got back. Jane Doe, her daughter, and DVS arrived and FSS and the investigator were allowed inside the apartment.
/FSS and the investigator observed Jane Doe to present with paranoid behaviors.
Reporting Jane Doe spoke very fast and made comments about her computer recording and her phone listening.
/Jane Doe's daughter reportedly kept nodding off, kept falling asleep sitting at the kitchen counter, and couldn't keep her eyes open. The DVS reportedly expressed she is very concerned for Jane Doe's daughter who she says never speaks, never smiles, and falls asleep a lot. DVS stated Jane Doe's daughter began to have a panic attack and was visibly distressed. Jane Doe refused DVS offer to provide them transportation to the hospital. Jane Doe reported her daughter was upset earlier because she didn't want to go out of the house and that Jane Doe reportedly gave Jane Doe's daughter a Motrin to calm her down.
/On 08/08/2023, FSS and the Investigator made another unannounced visit to the apartment. Jane Doe abruptly opened the door and was hostile, she refused to allow FSS and the Investigator in the apartment. Jane Doe told FSS and the investigator to call before they come to the apartment again. Jane Doe used her cell phone to take a selfie of herself, FSS, and the investigator to have proof of the visit. Jane Doe requested FSS and the Investigator leave because she was going to be late meeting DVS to get groceries.
On 08/09/2023, FSS and his supervisor staffed the case and the decision was made for CPS to assume emergency custody of the child.
No reasonable efforts to prevent removal of the child/children are deemed to have been made.
Jane Doe moved to some place some time somewhere and reportedly complained to officials about housing for low income citizens.
Later on Jane Doe then got in contact with a local domestic violence shelter who helped Jane Doe and her daughter receive subsidized housing.
Within weeks it's reported that Jane Doe's mother called in a wellness check and her narrative of what happened influenced their decisions: here's what happened:
They weren't fair. Jane Doe was not allowed to record any of the court hearing and there is no written document of what words were exchanged. What is seen on the papers is what halpened. Everyone went in and signed paperwork. No fair trial. No evidence. A decision premade before she even walked in the room. Described as a shark tank, anyway, here are the records:
The decision was made cold and without conscience but Jane Doe followed through on the appeal process and that has since been delayed two years.
[appeal notes]
Jane Doe's mother kept her daughter away from her for nine months. Total black out for everyone. Except Jane Doe's sister who stayed with them the summer of sometime. Jane Doe's sister reported their mother became mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive while she was temporarily living with her. She moved out early and at this time Jane Doe's sister decided to go no contact with their mother and step father. She said she was moving out indefinitely because living with Jane Doe's mother and witnessing her destructive parenting style on Jane Doe's daughter was reported as immensely damaging to her sister's mental health. Saying she did not want to leave but she could not show up for anyone while involving their mother in her life. Jane Doe's sister called their mother a covert narcissist. She said living with Jane Doe's mother and step father made her feel like she was going crazy.
Jane Doe's sister alleges Jane Doe's mother has a mental illness nobody can begin to comprehend and last and perhaps the most profound statement is in this current custody dispute where Jane Doe's mother maliciously went for custody of Jane Doe's daughter. To this her sister warned: Don’t let (her) Jane Doe's mother win.
On 11/14/2023 Jane Doe receive a letter from the Office of the Children’s Ombudsman (OCO) - validating Jane Doe's concerns by identifying that CPS committed procedural errors, specifically regarding the timeline and the improper status of her case.
Dear Jane Doe,
We finished looking into the problem you told us about with CPS. We read all the notes and papers to see what happened..
We cannot change what a judge or a lawyer does. But we did find that CPS made some mistakes. They were supposed to finish their work in 45 days, but they didn't. They also didn't tell you why it was taking so long.
Right now, CPS is helping you and your daughter see each other. This is good! But because they are helping you now, they should finish their "investigation" and just help you like a normal helper would.
We haven't told CPS that we talked to you yet. If we tell them, they might guess that you were the one who asked for help. It is illegal for CPS to be mean to you just because you asked us for help.
Signed,
OCO
The Ombudsman confirmed that CPS violated policy by keeping Jane Doe's investigation open past the 45 day limit without a valid extension or explanation.
They also noted that Jane Doe should be working with an in-home services caseworker rather than being under an "active investigation." This is a crucial distinction for Jane Doe's legal standing and peace of mind.
Jane Doe hired a new lawyer for the appeal and where she didn't hold back. She made her intentions known. That she wants legal separation from her mother, she wants to issue a cease and assist letter to her mother ordering her to immediately stop making unfounded allegations that Jane Doe is abusive or crazy, and she wants to press civil claims for the damage that's already done.
Jane Doe started receiving services to see her daughter at sometime someplace somewhere and her daughter was then given a phone and since then, she has never missed a visit or complained about wanting to leave the visit.
All of this and Jane Doe is still the first person in her family to graduate from a university. The first person in her family who has ever come out as LGBT, the first person her family to learn a musical instrument, release an album, and the first woman in her family to open and operate her own business.
Today she's still trying to free herself from her mother's control. Sign if you believe maternal abuse is real abuse.
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